Contributing Factors to Adam Lanza’s Murderous Crime Spree

This whole story is very close to me because I am alot like Nancy Lanza minus the hefty alimony payment. What this young man did was unthinkable and horrific, but as a mother of a teen who is much like Adam Lanza I can’t help but take offense to the stigma they are placing on all people who suffer from illnesses that make them often chasticized, bullied and forced to be outcasts just skating on the fringes of society all alone and helpless.

Society places the blame on Parents, Gun Control Laws, Mental Health, but what about Society? As Obama basically said we all are failing our children. We do not teach acceptance, and caring for peoples quirks and differences. Too many of us are quick to advise to stay away from that one he isn’t quite right in the head.

Ok first of all in saying that you are teaching children to shun anything not their definition of normal. Also if there does seem like there is something odd with the child in question too often we feel its none of our business to do or say anything about it. This is not a community working together. This is everyone turning a blind eye until something happens, that something this time being that an otherwise quiet kid with no history of violent behaviors or criminal record snaps and take the lives of innocent children.

Hey you can point your fingers anywhere you want but it still points right back at you. As the old quote says, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” If you want things to be different you too have to reflect and ask yourselves what each of us as a member of the community can do to help these people. How do you know your assistance could not have changed the whole course of this man’s life? Maybe someone could have mentored him, given him a job, tried to get to him despite the fact it was hard to reach him it could have made a difference.

Why is it that everyone feels the need to further label, call names, and ostracize an already suffering in silence percentage of the population who suffer from illnesses they did not ask to be born with? As many experts have said Aspergers and the like are not known or linked to being people who commit random acts of violence.

As a member of civilized society I am ashamed of how many people treats these people who dance to the beat of their own drum. How would you like to live a life of always feeling different and never feeling accepted. My son once said to me he was kind of like a design in the wallpaper of his classroom and he just blended in and was never noticed or made to feel apart of anything. Most people think if the kids looks unwelcoming or unapproachable he is weird and they give up.

Did you ever stop to think these kids may do that as a defense mechanism so they don’t have to deal with rejection or because they feel they are different and could never dit in anyway so they just try to hide away feom the world. These people need unconditional love and acceptance and people who work harder at breaking down their walls. Most people are too busy, too selfish, feel like its not their job, could care less, feel too akward, or some myriad of excuses. Its sad because you never know you could have been instrumental in changing the course of many lives in this instance if someone would have just reached out and helped.

We need more programs with kids who are caring and truly want to be friends and help this people feel they have a place in society. We need rolemodels to model good behavior and appropriate behavior and to show them how to make friends, keep friends and function in a safe manner. They need real people with hearts that form lasting friendships and over look the little quirks they may exhibit. We all have our deficencies. We can help people turn that around or we can turn a blind eye to their needs and let them go it all alone developing a festering hate for themselves and the people of the world who they viewed hurt them deeply. Don’t stop at gun control and mental health care, begin at home. Teach your kids that every child has value and is unique and worthwhile.


~ by misunderstoodmindz on December 18, 2012.

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